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Stages of Grief

October 27, 2017  

It is normal to experience a mixture of emotions and reactions when losing a job. First prepared by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her 1969 book “On Death and Dying” the Kubler Ross model includes five stages people may experience at different times and in different ways:

Stage 1: Denial

The reaction one might have at this stage is a feeling that someone made a mistake. Protecting yourself by denying the loss has taken place. You might pretend it never happened and won’t tell anyone.

“No, no, someone screwed up. I am worth too much to fire.”

Stage 2: Anger

When denial can’t continue, you might become angry at those individuals close to them. These being the organization, colleagues or a boss;

“I’ve given my life to the organization. How can they do this to me? This is so unfair, I work harder than my peers.”

Stage 3: Bargaining

Hope that the you can avoid a cause of grief by offer or accepting considerations you may not have before. You are trying to minimize impact of loss.

“Maybe there’s another job in the company I could do. Maybe if I contact them, they would take me back.”

Stage 4: Depression

A feeling of hopelessness and inability to cope develops. Please consider talking to someone if you feel you have lingered in this stage a prolonged period.

“I’ll never find another job as good as the one I had. No one will want to hire me.”

Stage 5: Acceptance

You embrace the inevitable future. You might achieve a calm retrospective view and a stable condition of emotions. Readiness to accept new beginnings unfolds.

“Maybe there is another job out there I will like better. Now I have the opportunity to go back to school. Now I have the opportunity to tune my skills through the Executive Career Academy powered by Vlaad and Company.”

With each stage and get to the fifth as effectively as possible. Skipping a step isn’t always helpful nor productive.

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